Introduction: Is This Me?
Part 1. The Unhappy Marriage
Chapter 1. Defining the Unhappy Marriage
Step 1. Determine-Is my marriage unhappy? How unhappy am I?
Chapter 2. The Marriage Bill of Rights
Chapter 3. How Parenting Falters
Step 2. Ask yourself-Is our parenting faltering?
Chapter 4. How Children Falter
Step 3. Look at your children right now-Is your unhappy family affecting their school performance, behavior, and self-esteem?
Chapter 5. How Sex and Intimacy Falter
Step 4. Face the truth-What is the quality of our sexual and intimate life?
Chapter 6. How Physical and Mental Health Falter
Step 5. Assess-Is marital stress affecting my physical and mental health? My children's? My spouse's?
Part 2. Myths about Divorce
Chapter 7. How Bias Shapes Your Thinking
Step 6. Take an inventory-What are my fears about separating and divorcing? What stigma and shame do I fear from my family, friends, religion, and community?
Chapter 8. Divorce Versus the Unhappy Marriage
Chapter 9. The Transition Period
Part 3. Truths about-Divorce
Chapter 10. Divorce for the Sake of the Children
Step 7. Evaluate realistically-If I divorce, what do I fear will happen to my children? Will I lose them? Can I accept not seeing them every day?
Chapter 11. Children's Self-Esteem
Chapter 12. Impact on Adolescents and Young Adults
Chapter 13. Growth of Empathy in Adolescents and Young Adults
Chapter 14. How Men and Women Grow
Chapter 15. Divorce and Finances
Step 8. Face your fears-What financial repercussions of separation and divorce frighten me?
Chapter 16. The Real Damage
Part 4. Knowing When It's Time to Go
Chapter 17. Rescued Marriages: Exhausting Every Remedy
Step 9. Take another inventory-Have I exhausted every remedy to heal my marriage? Do I have any realistic hope? What am I waiting for?
Chapter 18. The Tipping Point
Chapter 19. Making Your Plan
Step 10. Decide-What's my plan?
Selected Annotated Bibliography